What it is

The Still is a structured pause. Once every six months you sit with a single sheet of paper and assess each major category of your life: career, marriage, health, money, faith, friendship, family, body, and mind. For each one you mark either content or discontent, and you write the reason in a single sentence.

The Still tells you the truth about where you are. That is the entire point.

How it works

  • Set aside ten minutes somewhere you will not be interrupted, with your phone out of reach.
  • Move through each category in order.
  • Mark every one either content or discontent. There is no middle option, and that is deliberate.
  • Write a single sentence explaining why for each.
  • Put the date on it and keep it somewhere you will find it again in six months.

The output is a snapshot of your real condition on a real day. The first one tells you where you stand. Every following one tells you what moved.

The cadence

Every six months, on the same dates each year if possible. The Still is the foundation Your Pursuit is built on. The snapshot tells you where you are. The pursuit tells you where you are going.

  • The Agreement. A simple script to follow at the outset of any conversation.
  • The Assessment. The measurable approach to open and honest.
  • Fake You. The façade we project rather than being 100% honest.
  • The Wall. The divide we create between ourselves and others rather than being 100% open.
  • Your Pursuit. The question to design the life you want.